The Changing Pattern of Kin Relationships

Modernization will bring about changes in attitudes toward kinship and the degree of mutual dependency among kinfolk. Geographic mobility where heads of families change their residence to follow work opportunities is increasing. Distance from kinfolk will strengthen the ties within the nuclear family and the extended family will be concentrated more on the ascendants: and descendants of the family of orientation (grandparents and children).

Kin relationships will continue to be strong but there will be a weakening of the concept of mutual reciprocal, social obligations and economic support among the members. The real value of the kinship group will lie in the emotional support given its members. In the wider circle of the urban setting the feeling of belonging of being loved of being wanted and respected becomes a necessity. This is provided by the kin group. No matter what the circumstances, the situation or factors involved, the kinship group accepts and welcomes its members, and is a formidable ally, against outsiders. As an emotional prop, the kinship group has no substitute.

In an attempt to strengthen the kin relationships in urban areas, family reunions are regaining popularity. It is not unusual to read newspaper announcements of certain family get-togethers with the injunction to bring all members. On these occasions, the younger members are introduced to their elders and to other children of kinsmen. This strengthens kinship ties and fosters mutual cooperation and social involvement. A reconstruction of the family tree indicating its origin and showing the position of each member in the kinship system is usually presented to the younger members. The achievements and accomplishments of individuals in the family are announced to serve as a source of inspiration and kinship pride and as a standard to follow. The reunions are usually initiated by the more affluent and influential members to continue the family line. Members come from great distances to join the celebration and be recognized. That such reunions have been used by ambitious politicians indicates their effectiveness.

Changing Roles of Men and Women

Working mothers find satisfaction in being able to supplement the income of the husband and to afford more conveniences and luxuries. In cases where the husband's income is sufficient for the support of the family, the mother may seek self fulfillment in job satisfaction. Little by little the working mother begins to demand equal privileges in the home. In addition to regular employment, she is responsible for managing the household which sometimes brings problems. One of the complaints voiced in all countries at the time of the International Women's Year (1985) was that husbands refused to help with housework. Thus wives were not sure whether the right to work outside the home was liberation or a double burden! Middle class Filipino women are apparently in a fortunate position in this regard since they are usually able to hire household helpers. Since statistics indicate that not more than 17 percent of working Filipino women has maids this apparently is a luxury confined to a small group. Further the growing employment of women in factory labor may deprive even the middle-class professional woman of this type of assistance. Filipino men may soon be hard pressed to keep their exemption from household labor!