How to tell if your Net girlfriend is scamming you.  One of the livinginthephilippines3 members said;

Yes, calling her cell (mobile phone) is a good one, occasionally she will really have a "LOW BAT" but not too often.

It's also very easy for you (just like it is for her) to get a separate email address and send her chats and emails and you'll find out right away if she's faithful. Most of the scammer girls have so many men chatting that they won't know where u came from, just think u came off a chat room, in fact if they ask, just say you saw them in a chat room. It seems kind of underhanded to be doing this but like someone said, It's a new world we live in cyber world.
 
Another thing to look for is how their English in chats and texts matches up with their English when you speak in person or on the phone. Lots of girls have their English fluent friends (amigas) helping them chat.

My little pear turns out to be a real slut, lots of sex chat, she has over twenty men she is communicating with and several who will be in her city in the next month or few. She'll be having sex immediately with them, and good luck to them all in the disease department. Glad I found her out before I arrive.  I have no desire to be in line with a bunch of other guys.
 
She's now also working in a short time hotel as a massage girl (prostitute) and I shudder to think of the little petri dish now. She tells all the men the same thing. Getting divorced, how I mistreated her, I love you so much honey, my future husband, can't wait to see you, on and on. She has the copy and paste technique down pat and sends the same loving emails to all the guys

Kind of pathetic for the guys. I'd really recommend just going to the Philippines and meeting girls during the course of your day, (not night) Girls who are in school or working in department stores etc.

The Philippines is full of many nice girls to meet and it's really an unwise move to waste your time on chatting with girls on the net. Too much chance for head and heartache. Anyway, this site is about LIVING IN THE PHILIPPINES so if you are going to live in the PI, just go there and hang out and you'll meet plenty of nice girls.

If you're looking for a wife to bring back to your country, good luck, but that is not really the forte of this site is it? Lots of luck guys, enjoy life!

Another LINP3 member wrote a couple of things for you to watch out and look for. . .   I have listed a couple of things for you to watch out for and look for. 1. I would shy away from girl that are very internet proficient, or least watch them "very closely." Why are they so proficient at using the internet? A job or what? 2. I strongly suggest use of a cam, sometimes you can  actually see them typing and your not getting messages. Some girls are really fast typers and can chat with several guys at one time. With a cam, it also helps to verify that they are "actually girls." Many men impersonate women on the internet. 3. Getting messages that don't seem to pertain to your conversation. Sometimes they get their "wires crossed" and forget to switch windows. 4. If your girl has a cell phone she should pretty much be reachable at anytime. So call at different times like Friday & Saturday nights, in the middle of the day etc. 5. Asking for money. A nice Filipina usually has a very hard time doing this. 6. Check out their profiles to see how long they have had it. New profiles could translate into a new scam, though thesis not etched in stone. 7. Ask a lot of questions, and archive all chats, e-mails for review at a later date. Plus if your relationship last, you will need these to help support a "proof of relationship" if you decided to marry her. 8. Get to know the family, and neighbors. Though sometimes they will lie too, but more so the family. They like $$$ too. 9. Multiple screen names  if she has several it's a "red flag." She might ask you to switch to her "other screen name." 10. If and when you decide to send her money, if she seems "to familiar with knowing the ropes" that could be a red flag. This would indicate she has received money before ... why? 11. Before you go off to see her .. get a COPY of her Birth Cert. No exceptions .... One of the biggest scams going on right now is under age girls setting up guys and extorting money from them so they don't have to go to jail. The parents are "in" on this. 12. Her telling you that she loves you right off the bat. 13. Wanting to come to America or your country to be with you. Though this is not a guarantee she is a scammer, but a girl in love with "you" would be happy having you move to her country too, if her motive is to be with "you." 14. Do they work? Where does their chat money come from? 15. Talking sex ... Most good Filipina's are very reserved, and have higher moral values than here in the USA. 16. Refusing to talk openly about past relationships if any. 17. Does she go to church regularly? And does she live what she says she believes? 18. Check her out .. have a friend try and get next to her, and she if she responds positively to his advances. 19. Does she think about you and your needs or more about her and her needs? Is she "win-win"? 20. Does she "pressure" you in any way? 21. Does she treat others with respect? her parents, friends, ex's, authority figures ? Look for signs of inconsistency, and expect to be treated the way she treats "others" after your relationship "settles in." 22. How does she seem to handle money? 23. Does she appear to be "focused" on money, status, materialism, or image? If so these values are superficial, beware ! Finally, does she appear to have a noble character, be truth- worthy, is she helpful, have humility, a servants heart, is she industrious, does she plan ahead for possible problems, she is "needy," does she build people "up" or tear them down, does she have a happy, well-adjusted personality, and again ... is she praised and respected by family and friends? Hope this helps .... but remember the only guarantee is ... there are "no guarantee's. Internet Girl friends, Boys and Girls, Gays, Men and Women,Homosexuals A member who's wife worked as a manager in an Internet Cafe gives the low down from his wife's unique perspective on Internet Relationships in answer to another poster on our mailing list you can join at http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ LivingInThePhilippines3 You are right, George. There are Internet scams everywhere. You can't say that they are "worse" anywhere since the Internet recognizes no borders. It's not a question of "some Filipina's" scamming foreigners. All you need to do is spend a some time in any of the hundreds of Internet cafes surrounding the schools and colleges in the RP to see that the greater number of participants are far more interested in computer games than anything else. You will also see quite a number of Filipinos chatting with foreigners. My wife managed several Internet cafes while going to school and afterwards and she has stories that might amaze you! There are many boys and girls, transvestites and gays, engaged in the foreigner game. Many are in it for the money, some of them just for fun. There are cliques who challenge each other with more outrageous tricks; trying to get a foreigner to expose himself on his webcam for instance. The more successful of them play their foreigners, knowing just what words to use to extract a few dollars without ever having to ask directly. According to my wife, it is harder to find legitimate girls who use the cafes to "chat" with their foreigner b/f's because they are often ridiculed by the others. She and I used e-mail because she drew less attention than if she were to be using chat or a webcam, but then we knew each other very well before we even started Internet communication. Bottom line...DON'T SEND MONEY to someone half way around the world who you've never seen! You may be supporting a gay or a guy with a family who look quite amazing on a webcam, or you might be an unwitting party to games being played by a group of barkadas for fun. Take the trip. See that person eye-ball to eye-ball; get to know her, her friends and family in person! Then, and only then, make up your mind whether you want to send money. At least then you'll have some idea where your money is going. Another thing, these "scams" go both ways! She tells me that a number of foreigners use the chat rooms to line up their "entertainment" while planning vacations to the RP. They tend to play the provincial girls, some distance from the cafe's clustered around the colleges, where young people aren't quite so savvy. I know that as sure as I'm sitting here, that these words will be ignored by those who know that "their girl" is the exception   *By way of disclaimer, Living in the Philippines should mention that it doesn't have an affiliate relationship with any of these entities.* Two Hundred Thousand Pinoys Offering Cyber Sex From the Cybersex Department. “More than 200,000 Filipinos — women, men and possibly children — are offering sex via the Internet, Catanduanes Rep. Joseph Santiago revealed yesterday. [If this is a true number, and it could be, my bet is the vast majority of these Filipinas, and Filipino's many gay, only signed up, but don't check their accounts. Filipinos spend money on rice not Internet. It has one of the lowest Internet usage ratios in the world. And the ubiquitous cell phone takes what discretionary funds most have. The cell phone inhibits Internet growth among the masses, I am convinced.] He said one website claims to have a list of 212,257 potential online sexual partners from the Philippines… He said based on what that site says, ‘the Philippines now has the world’s 15th largest list of possible sexual partners on the Internet. We find this surprising considering that outside the office, very few Filipinos have ready access to personal computers with an Internet connection,’ he said. ‘This only suggests that a number of Internet shops may be fronting for cyber sex operations and there are many gangs here running clandestine cyber sex dens,’ he added. ‘We are gravely worried that going forward, as the country’s Internet users increase, illicit cyber sex activities will also proliferate. Cyber sex operators corrupt and prostitute our women and children. They should be dealt with severely,’ he said.” —Philippine Headline News Online (Philippines). That being said, however, you get the sense that this is the one of those pseudo-issues that politicians love to drum up now and then. Probably he was cruising for casual sex himself and happened to note that there were so many “pinoys” or Filipinos on AdultFriendFinder. Why not raise a hue and a cry, he must have thought, about the way the internet is corrupting the local morals? It’s always a safe way to polish an image or garner a few votes. After all, who would publicly admit that they want to see the local morals corrupted? Once you consider the matter, it shouldn’t be all that surprising that the Philippines has the world’s fifteenth largest list of cybersex partners. In the first place, it’s the twelfth most populous country in the world, so there are plenty of people to offer themselves online. In the second place, sex is already big business in the Philippines. It has long been known as one of the “established sex tourist destinations.” In the third place, internet usage is exploding in the Philippines, just as it is in other parts of the world. According to a report written a few years ago, “the Internet has become more accessible through schools, offices, libraries and Internet cafes… A proliferation of Internet prepaid cards means access costs are lower compared to monthly subscriptions… ‘The internet market is growing slowly but surely in the Philippines, and given our population potential, the Philippine internet user may become a very important part of the internet economy…’” And that “internet economy” doubtless involves lots of sex. [I feel the marriages made though the mail order bride sites, about 6,000 a year will not bring in as much money as the cyber sex business. But the cyber sex businesses will bring in money mostly to the foreigner's who finance the illicit and I guess illegal cafes where women and men can disrobe. The existing laws are not effective in keeping these poor people from being exploited. Like pimps, the operators don't even have to pay minimum wage!" Don October 4, 2005] MORE ADVICES >>>