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The things Filipinas sometimes say when chatting with other in their language

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Presently we are in the U.S.A. We are staying at my wife sister's house for the time we are here. Her sister invited a group of her Fillipina friends for lunch.
So they eating and chatting none stop having a good time. I came out to say hi. Chattering slowed down. My wife looked at me and said they want to know if it's. okay to speak in tagalog because their other friends are not allowed to speak tagalog when their husbands are present.
Now i think that is very controlling and i would never even think of asking my wife to do that. I respect her 100% and she can speak in what ever language she wants. I think that shows insecurity and not trusting the wives.
What do you guys here think about this? Does it bother you if you do not understand what the girls are talking about?
Just curious.

I couldn't care less at what they are talking about.  I just wish they didn't talk so much.  Yak, yak, yak, yak, yak.

I don't mind it when my wife and her friends are speaking in their dialect.

Menchu has told me before that there is a lot of embarrassment over their command of English. Being hearing impaired, it's usually hard for me to understand them when they do try their English anyway, so it's even worse for them because they think their speaking skills are so bad that I can't even understand!

The only problem I have is when I'm left out of decisions. Menchu sometimes forgets that I don't know what's being discussed and I feel blindsided when we're suddenly going somewhere or doing something that I don't know about.



--- Quote from: BudM on August 29, 2014, 03:46:24 AM ---I couldn't care less at what they are talking about.  I just wish they didn't talk so much.  Yak, yak, yak, yak, yak.

--- End quote ---

Exactly  :-[ :D It is a relaxation for the women to be allowed talk in their first language. Any man who does not like this is simply paranoid.

James and others, just possibly the men have a feeling about their ladies and therefore may not fully trust them. I happen to understand enough Bisaya to know what a conversation is about and I am sometimes amazed at what comes out of some ladies mouths when they are talking to my wife.

I agree we all need to trust our ladies but maybe fully trusting some ladies might be a mistake in some circumstances.


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