I'm sorry to hear you sound like somehow you had a bad luck with insurance. I feel you about the fact that hardly ever we get to rip the benefits of insurance whether we are talking about car insurance, renters insurance but 'tis the way of life and you just never know when the need for it will hit you....I can tell you a TRUE story on how tragedy strikes a friend of mine (I think I mentioned her in one of my post) Fil-Am from Cebu (own a house in Mandaue city, and if it weren't for her husband insurance she would have had a hard time along with her two (5-10 yrs old) sons to survive after her husband died of car accident here in the States. So, I know it sucks to pay for insurance but unfortunately it has become a necessity to be prepared for the things that could happen out of our control.
Actually no, Majal, no bad luck with insurance, I am happy to report. But, I have seen a few, like your friend from Mandaue, whose claims in similar circumstances have been denied. Always sad to see. I have witnessed cases of the dutiful husband who takes out a policy, lulled into thinking that his wife and kids will be provided for on his demise, only to die not knowing that the intended safety net was made of gossamer.
I am aware of a number of such cases because of my work as an attorney. I'll not go so far as to say the insurer is always wrong and that there is no such thing as a properly denied claim. All I say is that the protection afforded is sometimes more illusory than real.
My situation is probably not dissimilar to that of many here. My Filipina wife is significantly younger than I, comes from a modest background (well, let's just call it poor and have done with it) and, while she has held employment from time to time, her income-earning capacity is also modest. She is a hard worker, but never had the chance to have 23 years of full-time schooling - and the income that tends to follow - like me. So, of course, I must have in place a financial plan that will see her taken care of when I am gone. By "taken care of" I mean she should not have to live in substantially reduced circumstances after I depart. Some see life insurance as the cornerstone of such a plan. I do not. It costs more money, but I prefer to create a safety net for my wife out of more tangible assets.
Another difficulty with insurance as saving the day for family left behind, is it is more difficult to control how the funds are deployed. If my wife received a check for $1 million hard on the heels of my leaving, I am not confident she would be able to invest it to last.