Dating Sites

[Driver13]

Hello everybody,,,,i have another question,,,I was wondering how many men here have found their wives or gf's on dating sites,,,the lady I have been corresponding with I met on the Filipino Cupid website,,,a lot of the profiles and responses I disregarded because they did not seem  sincere or did not feel right by any means,,,just wondering if anyone else has had any luck on any dating sites,,,
Thank You

[shortman]

Buddy, the only advice i can give you is if one start saying all the things you want to hear then be careful; i know only a few who had great success on those sites. not to say it is not any good, but a lot of professional scammer's are mixed in there and they usually are the main ones who know what you want to hear leading all the way up to i need help to give so and so a birthday party, or my tuition is due and i will not be able to go to school, or my grandmother is sick and will die if i don't get the medicine...so on and so on... usually the true filipina will not even ask for any assistance of finance; in conclusion i still say the best way is to come without promising anyone anything and look for yourself;...do so no matter what method you use...hope this helps.

[Driver13]

Thanks Shortman,,,i have been talking to one lady,,,she has never asked for money or anything for that matter...I am going to make my first visit soon and have a good look around,,,plan on meeting her and seeing how that goes,,,if it doesn't work out ,,,well i have heard there are lots of pretty women there,,lol

[shortman]

Ok driver, wish you good fortune in your quest for true companionship; may the wind be at your back and your sails full at all times; (old navy saying, i am actually old army)....lol.

[Lee2]

I know of a lot of guys who have met their ladies on online sites and those who took their time ended up in great relationships. Yes there are scammers out there but there are wonderful women on those sites too. If the lady you met online has not sent you any red flags, then I would say for you to pursue the relationship and the only advice I would give is to go meet her as soon as you can, and spend as much time with her as you can getting to know her and if that works out, then spend time getting to know her family. Good luck and please keep us informed.

[Gray Wolf]

I met Gloria on an introduction site 14 years ago.  We exchanged emails and phone calls for 6 months before I went to Manila to visit with her in person.  It's been magical ever since.  But keep in mind this was 14 years ago when "dating" sites were just getting started and scammers hadn't yet become a lucrative online business.

[paulgee]

I met my wife Shirley on Filipina Heart, now renamed I believe. We have been very happily married now for 5 years and it was the best thing I ever did meeting her.

But on these dating sites are the good, the bad and everything inbetween. If you find the right Filipina woman she will make you the happiest man in the world, but conversely get a scammer or gold digger and a lot of pain will be the inevitable outcome.

I conversed with half a dozen or so women, until I met Shirley, and it was her sincerity and goodness that shone through from the emails and chats we had. Cast your net wide because the first woman may not be the best, and there is an endless number to choose from.

The onus is on the expat to sift through and make the right decision. Some do and some don't.

[Driver13]

Excellent advice everyone,,,I have not detected any red flags yet,,,,I have seen her family when we have cammed on Messenger,,,she is very family oriented as we all know they are,,,everyone looked happy and friendly...she is from the province and I am sure that she feels that if I pick her she has won the Lottery,,,I hope to spend as much time with her as possible on my first trip,,,hoping for the best,,,also hope to retire there if it feels right,,,

[BingColin]

I met Bing 26 years ago through a pen pal club. Dating sites did not exist then and even the Internet had not become popular or even available to most people. After a while I started to telephone her instead. I worked for British Telecom and most of us had our own unregistered lines. I used to get into work extra early, 8 am, to catch her before she left work at 4 pm. We got to know a lot about each other long before we actually met.

[JoeLP]

Met Tina on introasian.  Purely by chance really.  I was a member there for years, but never took any of it seriously.  Then one night, more because I was bored than anything, I talked to Tina in the chatroom part of the site, and we just hit it off.  Been here a year and it's been more paradise and heaven than either of my previous relationships with a pinay. 
Again, as others have said, take it careful.  While a member of that site for 2 years, I had a lot of Pinay make advances at me, and while I was pushing them back, they started asking for money without even a mutual respect on my side.  There are a lot of players.  But there are good ones and I hope you found one.

[graham]

I also met Janet on Filipina Heart. That was in 2005. She was just 21.
I told her she was too young for me, and that we could just be friends.
I came to CDO in 2005 to meet another girl, who stole a heap of money off me.
I had to curtail my holiday and go back home to Australia. I flew out on
a Sat, and unbeknownst to me Janet came to CDO on the Sun. to meet me.
She had been texting me all the time I was in CDO.

From then on and for the next 8 - 10 months Janet would text me a simple message
every day. Used to make me laugh with her funny texts. One day she asked if we
were still "just friends" I said to heck with that. We then started doing the usual
Skype thing and on Dec. 2007 I left Oz to come and live here permanently, without
ever actually meeting her in person.

Janet never asked me for anything, Her reply to my "can I help you in anyway"
brought a negative reply "I can look after myself, I don't need your money"
From day 1 when I met her at Davao airport, we clicked. I trust her 100% and
in the ensuing years she has never given me cause to doubt her sincerity.

Like driver13, I figured there were plenty of other girls if Janet didn't work out.
I found a typical caring old school Filipina. I was lucky!

Graham 

[Driver13]

Thank you Graham,,,sometimes it just seems to work out,,,glad for you...

[JD]

I met Menchu in an webcam chat room on a service no longer in existence. Like JoeLP and Tina, our meeting was accidental. I just happened to be curious one night and she just happened to be in an Internet cafe in Manila.

Her English was excellent. She didn't play "dumb". She was funny and had a pointed wit. I was thunderstruck.

She was about to leave the friend she was visiting in Manila for a ferry ride to the Western Visayas to stay with family. I panicked and in my stupidity I tried to throw a financial hook into her by offering to pay for her fare. She refused, afraid that I was trying to scam her, but remained curious enough to meet again on that chat service after she arrived.

That began over a year of almost daily 4-hour chat sessions. She sat on hard chairs, in crowded, smelly Internet cafes for four hours a day without a ciggie break. That had to be love, right? 

I paid her a visit for two weeks in Davao. We spent almost another year online after that while we worked on her fiance visa. We've been married for three years.

I've truly never been happier.

JD

[Killjoygreg]

You would  find those on this forum more likely to have met their ladies online simply because they use these sort of forums. None of my friends met their ladies online and indeed would only read a forum like this in a passing way. Not everybody enjoys talking about their personal experiences.

So the percentage would be heavily skewed. But then again as chat rooms and such are becoming more and more accepted as a way of introduction I can see this form taking a much higher method. I have never been on introductory sites but have seen many men taken in face to face.

I think chat rooms are good because most scammers could be sorted out quickly. Only very patient ones would succeed. Some trusting men are easily and repeatedly scammed and you can't save them.
 

[Gray Wolf]

You would  find those on this forum more likely to have met their ladies online simply because they use these sort of forums. None of my friends met their ladies online and indeed would only read a forum like this in a passing way.

I met Gloria on an introduction site almost 2 years before I discovered any forum.  How I got so lucky is beyond any comprehension.  Truly I have been blessed!   

Killjoygreg:  So, if your friends didn't meet their ladies online and don't belong to any forums, where and how did they meet their significant others?  Just curious